The Gateway API controller defaults group, kind, and weight on
parentRefs and backendRefs. ArgoCD diffs desired vs live by string
comparison, so omitting these fields causes permanent OutOfSync.
Same root cause as #162 (HTTPRoutes) but applied to TLSRoute.
## Summary
- Adds `group: gateway.networking.k8s.io` and `kind: Gateway` to all `parentRefs` entries
- Adds `group: ""`, `kind: Service`, and `weight: 1` to all `backendRefs` entries
- Affects 9 HTTPRoute files across artifactapi, cattle-system, consul, kanidm, litellm, paperclip, puppet, and vault
## Why
ArgoCD diffs the desired manifest against the live Kubernetes object. The Gateway API controller defaults these fields when creating/updating objects, so the live state always has them — causing persistent OutOfSync for every HTTPRoute. Same root cause as #153 (certificateRefs).
## Test plan
- [ ] All affected ArgoCD applications show Synced after merge
Reviewed-on: #162
## Summary
- Changes both `config-init` init container and `kanidm` container images from `ghcr.io/kanidm/server:1.10.3` to `kanidm/server:1.10.3`
## Why
`kanidm/server` is published on Docker Hub, not ghcr.io. RKE2 rewrites dockerhub pulls through the artifactapi mirror automatically.
## Test plan
- [ ] Pods roll successfully after ArgoCD sync
- [ ] Verify kanidm cluster replication still healthy
Reviewed-on: #161
unkinben