Bound serve_stale member copies by age, toggle and eviction

- drop a member's copy when serve_stale is off
- block on the member again once its copy is over an hour old
- skip storing a refresh whose entry was evicted or replaced
- show serve_stale in the UI and TUI

docs/common/caching.md

@@ -15,7 +15,9 @@ Every proxied request on a remote is classified as **denied**, **immutable** or
 | `mutable_ttl` | Seconds a mutable path stays fresh. `0` also means never expires. Omitted on create, it defaults to `3600`; omitted on update, the stored value is kept. |
 | `check_mutable` | When a mutable path's `mutable_ttl` expires, sends a conditional `HEAD` (`If-None-Match`) with the stored upstream ETag. A `304` re-arms the TTL and serves the stored copy; anything else refetches in full. The ETag is kept for `max(10 × mutable_ttl, 7 days)`, re-armed on each `304`, so idle paths age out. It is only stored when `check_mutable` is set and `mutable_ttl` is non-zero, and never for immutable paths. |
 | `stale_on_error` | On an upstream network error, serve the stored copy instead of failing. |
-| `serve_stale` | rpm/deb/alpine virtual members only. When a virtual re-merges, use this member's previous index at once and refresh it in the background; the next merge picks up the refresh. The first merge still waits. Default `false`. |
+| `serve_stale` | rpm/deb/alpine virtual members only. When a virtual re-merges, use this member's previous index at once and refresh it in the background; the next merge picks up the refresh. The first merge still waits, and so does any merge once the previous index is over an hour old, so a member that keeps failing surfaces its error. Default `false`. |
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+`PUT` replaces the whole remote: any field omitted from the body, such as `stale_on_error` or `serve_stale`, resets to its default (`mutable_ttl` is the exception above).
 | `quarantine_enabled` / `quarantine_days` | Stored on the remote but not enforced by the proxy yet. |
 | `mirrorlist` / `mirror_strategy` | rpm/deb/alpine only. Upstream pool is `[base_url] + mirrorlist`; `round_robin` (default) rotates the starting mirror, `least_conn` starts at the one with the fewest in-flight requests. Network errors and 5xx fail over to the next mirror; other statuses return as-is. |